This year has been something of a spiritual journey for me – in fact it still is! I’ve already written about how I have meditated every day so far in 2018; I have been providing angel card readings for friends and readers; there have been some significant changes in who I am and how I go about my life.
As well as this, I’ve had a couple of… “hiccups” to deal with. I split up with a partner I loved very much, and then there was that time S was unconscious for an hour for no discernible reason. Neither of those were much fun, and hit me quite hard. There have been other things going on in my life which I have not mentioned here or on social media, but they have not been much fun either.
There are plenty of “old school” ways to deal with a major life event; I’ve tried many of the unhealthy ones and never really found any that work. Now that I am on a more “spiritual” path I’ve tried this year to deal with my problems in a more spritual way.
Here are my suggestions for spirutual ways to get over a major life event:
- Meditate. And then meditate again. I meditate every morning before beginning my day. When something major has happened in my life, I meditate more. There’s an old saying which has been attributed to many different people: you should meditate for twenty minutes every day, unless you are too busy – and then you should meditate for an hour. The times when your mind is spinning out of control because something has gone awry are the times to sit and meditate for longer.
- Check your attitude. There’s a tendency when things go wrong to think “why me?!” and to feel quite sorry for oneself. That gets you nowhere… actually, it just causes you to take a step or more back from your previous progress in spiritual terms. Self pity is never good for anyone.
- Choose gratitude. Ok, so it might be hard to feel grateful for whatever has happened to you right now if it’s still hurting – but at least acknowledge that it will have happened for a reason and eventually the blessing will become clear to you. If you can’t find it in yourself to feel grateful for it right now, find something else and be grateful for that instead. In fact, make it a goal to find three (different) things each day for which you are grateful, and raise your vibration that way.
- Keep doing what you do. When the sky falls in it can be very tempting to just throw your hands up and drop everything. I’ve done it before; it feels justified. Until a week later when you’ve lost all sense of where you are and what you need to do. These days I try to just keep plodding through my normal routine as much as possible. The routine helps!
- Look for the lesson. This is perhaps something to do a little later if it’s too painful in the moment – but there is usually something we can learn from any situation, good or bad. Once you can find a way to see it as a learning experience, this is where the gratitude becomes easier.
- Cut the cords. “Cutting the cords” refers to etheric cords, which many people believe can form between us and anyone with whom we have spent time or exchanged energy. When there is a lingering cord between us and someone else it can drain our energy and leave us feeling exposed. Cutting etheric cords doesn’t mean we’re cutting a person off, never to speak to them again; it just means we’re cutting that etherial link with them in an effort to maintain our own energy levels. There are lots of ways you can cut the cords; you can easily find a guided meditation online, or some people prefer to use a crystal or to ask Archangel Michael to help with it. I find it’s a good thing to do on a fairly regular basis anyway because it’s very easy to become entangled with someone else’s energy. People who work with energy often cut cords at the end of a session with a client too. If you’re going through a break up or an argument with someone, cutting the cords can feel therapeutic for you as well.
- Try to align with your future self. This one sounds a bit weird, but bear with me. If you’ve listened to/read any Abraham Hicks you may well have heard them say that when you feel bad, it’s because your thoughts and feelings are not aligned with those of the universe. So in order to feel better, you need to change your thoughts and feelings to match the universe. You could probably write whole books on this subject, but the shortened version is: think about how you want to be/think/feel in a week/month/year from now and then aim your thoughts and feelings in that direction. Act as if you are already there, and you will find it’s much easier to get there.
- Remember love. I should probably have put this one at the top, since it’s probably the most important item on the list. Cultivate a loving attitude towards everyone and everything in the universe. Even those who you feel have wronged you. It may not feel like it now, but they did that for a reason. Sending love to these people does not mean you excuse their actions or that you’re going to invite them round for a cup of tea any time soon; it just means that you send them love. Ram Dass says: “The most important aspect of love is not in giving or the receiving: it’s in the being. When I need love from others, or need to give love to others, I’m caught in an unstable situation. Being in love, rather than giving or taking love, is the only thing that provides stability. Being in love means seeing the Beloved all around me.” Aim always for love, and you won’t go far wrong.
Stephanie Donkers-Schmalz · 22/07/2018 at 15:36
Hi Vicky — You’ve really captured everything here to recover from trauma and promote wellbeing within yourself. I searched for a long time to find the answers and found these same aspects and practices, as you describe them here, are what works. Every one of them! Thanks for ‘spreading the word!’