On the one hand, we all hate paedophiles. Whenever a story comes up in the news about paedophiles we all tut and complain about how disgusting they are, and Twitter and Facebook are full of everyone’s opinions that they should be shot or similar.
On the other hand, these days we seem so keen to force our children to grow up earlier and earlier. Little girls, especially, are sexualised from a very young age these days.
|Photo taken from ebay, where there’s a
never-ending supply of heeled shoes for children.
Many people seem to pierce their little girl’s ears when the girl herself is far too young to express an opinion one way or the other. We put our little girls in revealing outfits with “sexy” slogans on them. They wear crop tops long before they have anything that would need to be covered by one. You can buy heeled shoes in such small sizes these days, you could easily find a dozen pairs for a five-year-old to wear. Some of them are knee-high boots. Someone, please tell me: what does a five-year-old girl need with a pair of knee-high, heeled boots? She should be wearing grubby trainers and running around the playground, surely. I’ve heard people tell children they look “sexy.” Children. Why is “sexy” something we want our children to be aiming for in their looks? Surely, if anything, we’d rather they look “smart” or if you’re going somewhere important, “clean” – but sexy? Really?
One thing that really irritates me is this whole “oh, they’re boyfriend and girlfriend!” thing – often when a child is only a few months old! What’s that all about? Why can’t children just be friends? Do we really want our children to have boyfriends and girlfriends before they can even speak? What do we do then, when they get older and have a boyfriend and want to kiss him like they’ve seen on TV? Surely it’s better to leave it as long as possible before your child is deemed to be in a relationship?
When your daughter returns to school in September, will she be going with a brand new Playboy pencil case and pens? Will she be wearing heeled school shoes and a skirt as far above her knee as she can get away with? Will she have new ear rings, hair straightened to within an inch of its pre-teen life? Who is she dressing up for, any way?
Besides the fact we’re forcing our children to leave their childhoods earlier and earlier, how can we condemn those who lust after children, when we’re encouraging our children to head in that very direction?
Don’t get me wrong here; I’m not in any way trying to excuse paedophiles’ behaviour, or trying to say that parents encourage paedophile behaviour. Or, God forbid, that children could be in any way to blame for that sort of thing. I’m not for one moment saying that it’s a parent’s fault or a child’s fault if a child is abused. The blame will always lie 100% with the perpetrator.
But doesn’t anyone find it a massive discrepancy in our culture, where paedophilia is so universally reviled, but we put our kids in crop tops and heels, pierce their ears and parade them down the street calling them sexy?