Domestic Abuse Law in the News
Yesterday Labour announced that it is their intention, should they gain power in the next election, to bring in a new law that would prevent abusive partners from avoiding prosecution.
Under current laws, offenders can apparently avoid prosecution by using a “community resolution” whereby they apologise to their victim, pay for any damages and so on, and walk away without so much as a police caution.
According to data compiled by Labour, in 2013 there were 3,305 uses of community resolutions for domestic violence – an increase of more than 250% since 2009.
The police argue that community resolution is only used for first time offenders, where they have admitted guilt and the victim’s feelings have been considered. Also it’s important to remember that the definition of “domestic violence” encompasses anything violent that happens in or around the home. An example I heard used on the radio was a situation where a couple split up, and the man is upset and angry and breaks the wing mirror off the woman’s car. It’s classed as domestic violence under the law, but he has never been violent before, and so an agreement is made that rather than prosecute him, he will just pay for the wing mirror to be replaced.
I can tell you from my own experience that it took me a long while to realise, and admit to myself, that what I had gone through was abuse. An abusive person is very good at getting right inside of your head, to the point that a single look or gesture can change what you say or think. They can make you believe that you are in the wrong, even as you’re standing there with bruises, scared to move for fear of what they will do next. They can make you believe this is just how life is, and that you’re just being prissy and stuck up for acting as if it’s out of the ordinary.
I am very concerned about a system that allows, or even encourages, an abuser to have any further contact with their victim at all.
I have no idea why DA is still not properly addressed. DA only ever gets worse so even small are best dealt with properly before abuse escalates instead of a low level (?) label.<br />Abuse in the home is somehow lowered altogether. If a stranger called you a name or hit you in the street no-one is saying ''why does she put up with it? I hope she takes her children to his house every
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Like you Vicky, I hadn't realised I was in a situation that was classed as Domestic Abuse. I hadn't appreciated the difference between that and Domestic Violence - and who does unless or until they're subjected to it. My ex-h was a charmer on the outside and I still battle with some family members and some people who think of themselves as my friends who I really don't want to
Thank you for commenting! I find often speaking to people who've been through domestic abuse situations is like looking into a mirror. I'll never forget my first day at the Freedom Programme and hearing other women speak; they used the same words, the same phrases - as if all these men had been to the same school of being an abuser. <br />I'm definitely a very different person to how