Good Mother, Good Father?
- She would sacrifice anything
- She gives and loves unconditionally
- She never gives up
- She will do something she doesn’t want to do, if it’s the best thing for her child
- She sees her child as an individual, not an extension of herself
- She puts her child’s needs before her own
- She gives her child both praise and boundaries
- She meets her child’s physical and emotional needs
- She spends quality time with her child every day
I agree with you that society's view of mothers differs to its view of fathers and it's something that continues to frustrate me as it doesn't do either gender any favours. <br /><br />Women shouldn't be expected to do everything in order to be perceived as good mothers and, similarly, men shouldn't be written off as second class parents who people should have low expectations
I'm happy to be a single Mum. I was listening to some mums outside school saying how their partners disliked playing dolls with their sons and they'd never let their son wear nail polish because that's ''too far''. I had never considered any of this and never will have to.
You're a good mom! And I am, too. I did extended breastfeeding & child-led weaning, and now that I think about it, I might have felt the same way had anyone else been there. :) And I agree with what you've said about the difference between what is considered "good" in a mother & "good" in a father.
Am so glad you shared this with me. I think you're right. I think if the roles were reversed with your ex then all hell would kick off. It's strange though because reading this I can completely agree. Dad's semi to have it easy or at least appear to. Yes it's sweet and lovely that a dad could sit cuddled to their child and watch a film but what about the other stuff. Some women have it extremely hard in comparison. What I find difficult is that I do everything. I have the boys 50/50 plus an extra 3 days a month. I home educate too (which I coordinate etc) I have no choice to do the housework if I don't do it then it doesn't get done. I am everything to the boys. I don't say this to seek praise, I really don't like seeking praise, as for me this is exactly what a man and a father should be. Yet surprisingly I hear the sentence "stop measuring what you do against bad dad's and start trying to be a good one" this upsets me because I clearly cannot do any more. I think sometimes people are blinded by situations and don't have a measurable scale of comparison so subsequently have categories that they put others in. It annoys me because I want to give some dad's a good slap but I also want to give some mums one too. You do an amazing job, as do I, as does any parent that is the 'leading' parent who has to do all that you mentioned above. martyn recently posted...Valentines Day 2015