Is Father Christmas Real?
I’ve watched with interest lately, a debate on Facebook surrounding Father Christmas/Santa Claus, and whether he is indeed real.
I’ve a friend who has two children. The ten year old recently discovered that Father Christmas wasn’t real, and now Dad feels like a big fraud, “keeping the magic alive” for his seven year old son, when he’s always taught both children to always be honest. Whenever his son mentions Father Christmas, my friend’s daughter catches her father lying – something he’s always tried to drum into her that you don’t do.
I spoke to a lovely German lady who grew up in Hamburg. She told me that in Germany, children don’t start school until they are 6 or 7, and by that point parents tend to have told their child the truth about Father Christmas – so as to avoid them hearing something on the school playground. In Germany, children are encouraged to be more inquisitive generally, and their questions – about Father Christmas or otherwise – are generally met with truthful discussion, rather than the usual “stop asking questions” or similar that I grew up with!
I also then read this piece about a child finding out her mother is Father Christmas. I loved the letter the mother wrote to her daughter: Santa is bigger than any person, and his work has gone on longer than any of us have lived. What he does is simple, but it is powerful. He teaches children how to have belief in something they can’t see or touch…Santa is a teacher, and I have been his student, and now you know the secret of how he gets down all those chimneys on Christmas Eve: he has help from all the people whose hearts he’s filled with joy. I think that’s nice… but something you’d have to trot out a little later than the age of 5 or 6 really.
Victoria - WTPP
Its a tough one. I always heard my parents fetch the presents down but I think there some magic in the whole run up to it. The setting up of the carrot...the suprise at seeing the presents. Wether its via santa or your parents..its magical either way. I think like germany I will keep up a santa act until in reception..bt then what if someone there does believe and its my child that spoils the
I have three kids, the youngest is 12,and he has known for some years that father Christmas is not true, but we still follow Santa Tracker on the net on Xmas eve, and he still loves his stocking, which usually contains all those presents that mum and dad won't buy him, usually stuff that breaks or tons of sweets, and even my girls who are in their 20's still love the stocking.. Father
Perfectly Happy Mum
it's funny, this year is the first year I am having these sorts of questions going on in my head. My boys are 5 and 6 and they still believe, both of them do. I can't imagine my eldest believing for longer than another 2 yrs maybe. I also know that the minute he stops believing his brother will stop too. I love the magic of christmas, there eyes lighting up when they find the presents in
The Brick Castle
We've 7 children, the oldest is 20 in January, the youngest is 3. They've all believed until they naturally work it out logically themselves around 7-8ish. No-one has ever felt awkward or cheated or duped, and I know I didn't when I was a child either.<br />We're all grown ups for a very long time - let them have some magic and be children while they can :)
I have always been pretty strict with myself on absolutely never telling my daughter a lie. How can I expect her to trust me or be honest with me if I lie to her? I never told her Father Christmas was real and she's just never thought of him as being real. She loves going to grottos and sitting on his lap because she sees it as getting involved in the story, it's like a fun game. Christmas is still her favourite time of year and not just because of presents - in fact, when I asked her why she loves Christmas just this week, she told me 'because it's special family time....and the twinkly lights, of course'.