Blog Every Day in August: Time For Change
- how are you?
- can I do anything?
- I’m in the shop, do you need anything? I can drop it at your door without stopping for an uncomfortable chat if you’d prefer.
- don’t be stupid, you can’t jump off that; there’s a cage all the way around it to keep people in! (my friend S said this to me when I told her I’d been planning to jump off an aerial balloon
- I’m free this morning/afternoon/evening if you want someone to come and watch a movie with you; we don’t have to talk if you don’t want to.
- I understand
- It doesn’t matter if you don’t feel up to doing this thing we said we’d do together; I am still your friend.
- You don’t need to explain
- Have you seen Penny from Accounts’ new hair cut?! It’s awful! (mental health problems don’t mean you can’t appreciate a good distraction from time to time)
- they are still the same person, with the same likes and dislikes. Being depressed does not mean they will suddenly enjoy musicals, if they never liked them before – same as if they’d broken their arm.
- any mental health issue at all does not suddenly make you stupid. Unless the person was stupid beforehand. A person’s IQ remains largely unaffected by their illness – same is if they’d broken their leg.
- don’t take it personally if they don’t want to see you. It’s not something against you (unless you’re a really crappy person); they just might not feel up to company – same as if they had the flu.
- they can’t just snap out of it – same as if they had anaemia, or a tooth ache, or liver failure, or any other physical ailment.
I personally can so relate to this post. I fight depression all the time. I haven't had a bad case of it in a long time now, but I feel it coming on again. <br /><br />I always have mood swings something fierce. I hate that about myself, but I also hate the idea of being on medicine (especially since we can't afford it.) <br /><br />Thanks for sharing this. Many people don't